Welcome to your second module! The first module was mostly about YOU. In the second and third modules, we’re moving onto your child.
In this module you’ll:
- learn how to understand your child’s brain so you can parent to your mama vision;
- observe and learn how to read your child’s brain states and understand why they have the behaviours they do;
- learn how to respond to your child in each of their brain states to be deeply connected and give them what they really need.
Here we go …
Have you ever stood in front of your child and said: “What on earth is going on in your head?”
You may have said to yourself: “I just don’t get you! Why don’t you understand? It seem we’re from two different planets!”
Let’s face it. You’re dealing with tantrums, meltdowns, incessant crying, whingeing, whining, and resistance in many different shapes and forms.
What can you DO when this happens and nothing seems to work?
Maybe you’ve tried to reason. Maybe you’ve tried smacking and became upset at yourself wishing that you hadn’t. Or maybe you’ve felt helpless and done nothing: you ignored their behaviour and your child has escalated to being completely out of control. You knew you could have done something but you didn’t know what!
With any of these scenarios you may have ended up with the feeling of dread in your stomach and worried that you couldn’t seem to get it right.
Does this sound familiar?
Let’s just stop here. First of all I want you to know how normal this is. It’s so human and real and common to most mothers. And I want to give you a big mama hug to reassure you that you’re not alone. I know you’re doing your best, and this is some of the toughest stuff you’ll ever deal with in your life!
What I love about you is that we’re actually having this conversation. That you care enough to even think about this stuff.
What’s different about you is you’re interested in doing it differently. You want to change it up from the old paradigm – the old-school way – where the focus was mostly on changing behaviour only.
You know that there’s more. Your heart aches for the connection. To feel really good about how you’re doing this mother gig. Deep down you want your child to admire you, that as a teenager they’ll come to you with their problems, and as adults will want to have you as a big part of their lives.
You want to feel good about discipline because you know it becomes part of the relationship you’re building together.
Maybe you’ve heard that in this new paradigm – the modern way to parent – that discipline is more about modelling and learning in the context of this mother-child relationship.
This is how your child will develop the inner treasure chest of skills you want them to have.
Our society is in transition from the old paradigm to the new one so it’s not surprising that many of you have conflicting messages coming at you thick and fast about what is the best way to raise a child.
“Do it this way.”
“No don’t. It’s bad for your child.”
One expert says one thing but another says the opposite. Who do you trust? It’s so confusing!
The answer is to learn to trust your own intuition. To develop a mindset and skill set that allows you to parent from your heart in a way that best suits your individual child.
That’s what being an Intuitive Mother is all about – tapping in to your inner knowing in order to communicate with your child in a way that works for both of you.
This requires the Mama Vision from your last module, but also an understanding of your child’s brain and how it affects his or her behaviour, so you can parent in alignment with your vision.
When you understand what’s going on in his or her little head, you are able to understand why they have the behaviours they do.
Being aware of your own brain states and how you react to your child’s is also critical here.
In the first part of this module you’ll become an observer. You’ll be an onlooker in your own household, taking notes of what you see your child doing and how you respond in each of their brain states. You’ll get clever at understanding how to read brain states and decode your child’s behaviour.
Then in the second part of this module, as we build on this knowledge and discuss strategies of how to approach your child when they’re in the different brain states, and how to make conscious and powerful choices moment to moment with whatever happens.
You’ll get to be an Intuitive Mother in action!
The benefits are significant and so important. You’ll be giving your child more of what they need for skill-building and emotional well-being, investing in your relationship with them, and wiring their brain towards positive behaviours as opposed to misbehaviour and unnecessary meltdowns.
As a foundation for ALL of this you’ll need to be incorporating the embodiment practices which we’ll go over now.
Download Decode Your Child’s Brain Guidebook to follow through Module 2 content or click through the content below!
You can also watch or listen to this week’s live chat HERE or below: